No More Excuses
Today I want to talk about having no more excuses.
I used to make a few excuses in my life about why I couldn’t do certain things in my business. One, I’m impatient. Two, I didn’t like to listen to authority. Three, I was scared. Like really scared. Scared of what went with that. I was scared and made excuses instead of doing what I said I was going to do. I was scared.
I felt scared because it was pushing me out of my comfort zone. I got anxious because I didn’t know what it was going to be like. I couldn’t control the situation if I didn’t know what was going to happen. Why would I do that? Why would I put myself in that situation? If I can’t control everything and I don’t have any baseline for it, why would I do it? And that’s effectively every single excuse that you make.
I use excuse very literally.
I don’t think if someone says, “Go jump off that bridge,” and it’s obviously dangerous and, fuck, you’re scared of heights that you’ll need to make an excuse. That’s an actual reason.
I mean excuses like why you can’t invest. Granted, some people can’t invest because they actually know their budget and know what they can and can’t afford. Some people aren’t like that. Some people know and have the money to invest in something and don’t because they are scared they’re going to lose their money or for some other reason. Maybe they’ve made mistakes in the past and they say, “I can’t… I’ve made a similar mistake in the past so I’m not going to do that.”
If you keep making these excuses, you’ll never start.
Do you keep saying stuff like, “Oh, I’m just going to start the website in two weeks,” “I’m going to wait until I have three clients,” “I’ll go on video in a few months,” “I’ll start diversifying my social media output once I get 50,000 views,” “I’ll launch that podcast once I turn 30,” or any other of the million excuses out there?
Every single excuse I make, every single solitary excuse I make, is because I’m scared. A lot of us don’t want to admit that to ourselves. So many of us don’t and it makes me sad. If you can’t admit it to yourself, it’s going to hold you back your entire life.
I think we hold pride in being warriors, especially women. “We are strong, unwavering, and we don’t need any help!” Okay, Amazon, you do you, but there is no shame in asking for help. Believe me, I thought there was for a very long time.
Two years ago, I did something I thought I’d never think of doing.
I asked a guy I was romantically involved with to emotionally support me. Oh, god, what if he judged me?! What if he ran away? What if he thought I was dumb? What if he thought I was dumb? What if he thought my anxiety was too much?
I was scared of being vulnerable. I was scared of what could happen. I was scared to connect with someone on that level of intimacy. You do that in your life, in your business, everywhere.
We can dress it up how we want but the reality is that those excuses will keep coming around. You’ll keep saying them until you hit the point where (most likely) you’ll want to go after your dreams so badly that those same excuses will stop holding the weight that they do now.
I believe that most of you who are listening to this are very passionate about what you do. If you aren’t now, then I believe that you’ll become very passionate about what you do related to what you do now. I imagine that most of you who are listening will also change your passion. That’s cool. I mean, maybe you won’t change it, but there’s a lot of beauty in adapting, changing, and doing something new that fuels you.
When you are fueled by passion those excuses will sound dumb to you.
You’ll stop wanting to listen to that voice in your head. It’ll say stupid stuff like, “Yeah, let’s just watch a whole season of The Office instead,” “You could write that blog post, but wouldn’t it be better to go and get drunk with your friends instead?” or “Oh, yeah, you should really go work out but wouldn’t you rather sleep for an extra four hours. Never mind that you’ve already slept for 10.” You’ll stop listening and those excuses will fade.
Since you’re passionate, I urge you to get out of your own way right now. C’mon, be real. Do it right now! I want you to get out of your own way. As Marie Forleo says, everything is figureoutable. The best way to figure it out? Get out of your own way. Those two things can work miraculously together.
If you’re having trouble getting out of your own way, that highlights a problem. You need to figure out why you’re having so much trouble. You need to dig into your mindset because that limiting belief buried deep and it prevents you from getting everything that you want. Digging it out will be the secret to unlocking it. That I promise you.