The Power of Saying NO
The one thing I regret most when first starting out as a VA (Virtual Assistant) is not truly understanding what boundaries are and how much they affected my life and my business.
Sure, I knew that boundaries were a good thing, but asking me to pinpoint an example of how I laid out a boundary with my clients? Nope, couldn’t tell you.
And one of the ways to set a boundary is to say “no.”
Think of it this way — if you answer an email on the weekend, that’s one thing, but if you’ve agreed to create an entire 7-day challenge in a 12-hour window over the weekend, that’s WAY too much.
VAs, I’m speaking to you! This also goes for designers, writers, project managers … the list goes on.
You need to remember you are a business, and businesses have closing times.
I’m a workaholic; I know how hard it is to find a stopping point. I always want to answer just one more email or complete just one more task before I sign off for the night. What ultimately happens, though, is you answer one more, and one more, and the next thing you know you’re working six 12-hour days a week. No bueno.
Saying “NO” will allow you to have alone time. This is essential for the overall wellness of your business.
Don’t believe me? Just check out my article How Lack of Self-Care Almost Killed Me … Twice. You’re probably thinking somewhere along the lines of, “Amy, this seems counter intuitive. I got into this line of work to help people. By saying, ‘no’ over and over again, I’m only helping myself. How is this a good thing for my business and my client experience?” Well, young Jedi … you want to function at your highest mental capacity, right? You want to show up 100% day in, day out for your business and your clients, right? You want clients to love you? You want them to shower you with genuine admiration for your craft? Well, friend, setting boundaries and saying “no” is the best way to do that.
Go out and enjoy this life you have created for yourself.
Sometimes, we get wrapped up in the moment of our growing businesses and forget the real reasons we made it — to live our dream life and have more freedom. So, go on that weekend camping trip, go with your girls to the beach and have a little fun, or go do whatever it is you wish to do with your money and free time. Enjoy yourself. And this, my friends, leads to one more important concept regarding the health of your business. The mental clarity and serenity you’ll experience when caring for yourself will feel liberating. A little TLC will promote an increase in creative head space that will allow you to build your business and build your client list — and feel good doing it. Make sure your client experience is complete with this free guide on how to create the perfect welcome packet!